Our society is obsessed with youth. I am a big advocate of self care. However feeling devalued because of how we look, our age or ability is a great pity. A mature society has systems to value every generation. Let us see, support, and honour people for who they are. My blog aims to empower expression & recognition.
Within each and every one of us is a child who wishes to be happy, an adult who wants to be recognised for their value; and an elder who is wise. We each have feminine and masculine qualities that can be nurtured to thrive or neglected resulting in behaviour that can cause our demise.
Today conversations re: gender, sexuality, masculine and feminine form continue to open up and strive for inclusivity. We are the people, who can create the love and acceptance we seek.
Sometimes despite our efforts to unite and be respectful it can still be confusing. A very good friend of mine in grad school once said to me... "Oshi, it is easy with you because I've learnt how you need me to show up and be supportive; and you have taken the time the time to learn my style too."
We were an engineer and a doctor trying to make a translational research project work. We spoke two different languages professionally; personally we were very much a guy and a girl in our approach. If things were not working my friend (male) needed silence, strong black coffee and a Starbucks cookie to work things out. When I was struggling I needed hugs, reassurance, and chocolate to find my way back. An open discussion early in the working relationship helped saved countless hours of unhappiness and stress.
Not every girl wants a guy to hold open the door; neither does every man want dinner on the table when he returns home. Our rich diversity in personality calls for a new level of communication which allows us to form meaningful connections, and have our needs met. How can we ask, be heard, and cherished. How can we create happiness ?
When our needs are met, with love, respect, and care we can all thrive. This is not a utopia or delusional dream. Creating this reality is possible if we understand the qualities of the balanced masculine / feminine; and nurture each other to express it. We all possess different amounts of these qualities at rest and fall apart when we are tired, disappointed and stressed.
Let us take a look at the qualities....together.
When I look at this list I realise my natural style is very feminine. There are times I need to master more masculine attributes e.g. assertiveness. When I am very tired it is much harder for me to have clarity. When I am encouraged, supported and rested I express my best balanced version of feminine and masculine qualities. I am very feminine in style. Being aware allows me to show up for life wearing the best version of myself.
What might be true for you? I encourage you to explore the landscapes of yourself and find out who you are, what you need, and how you will ask for your needs to be met. This will give us the best chance of supporting each other.
My blog focuses on human needs, potentials and possibility. It is also a gentle exploration of where we might struggle to be express ourselves.
I found that when I showed up as my own authentic feminine self, I created a space for the men and women in my life to grow and honour both me and themselves. I gave myself the space to grow too.
I encourage you to explore... follow my blog and be the best version of yourself.
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